“Mum – I told you all about that. You asked me last week, remember?”
Often I actually DON’T remember – and it worries me when that happens. I don’t want my child to think she doesn’t deserve my undivided attention or worse – that I don’t care. I do care, she does deserve and I want nothing more than to have untold free hours to spend with my family. I couldn’t possibly express in words how important they are to me.
Still – this happens. It’s usually when I’m feeling really stretched for time, when there just don’t seem to be enough hours in the day.
But I also know a solution:
Giving is great for our karma, it feels fantastic, nourishes the soul and can give us incredible pleasure.
One of the reasons I aim to be as wealthy as possible is so I can give more. And as a bonus gift with purchase: The more you give, the more you get, right?
When we think of giving we usually think of money or objects or even of volunteering to a good cause.
But what about just giving yourself, your everyday time and most importantly – your undivided attention to the people around you?
Giving is not just about racking up universal ‘brownie points’. Giving also sends a message to our subconscious mind – which is where our belief system about our world lives. When we give generously, that message is: “I have plenty. In fact, I have so much, I can easily give some away.”
We’ve been talking a lot about our belief systems & how damaging limiting beliefs can be. Generosity – or lack thereof – is just another way we program our belief systems about our world.
If we’re not generous with our time & attention, we might inadvertently program our subconscious with messages that say: ”There’s not enough time. I just never have enough hours in the day.” Then see how stressed out you’ll end up!
We can instead choose to program our subconscious with messages of: “There’s plenty of time for everything. In fact, I can generously give my time & attention to others.” This is a nice thing to do for them, but is also good really good for us.
You can get yourself all stressed out just by WORRYING you won’t have enough time to get everything done. Whether or not you DO actually have enough time becomes almost irrelevant.
We also function a lot better when we’re not totally stressed out & panicked, so slowing down & focusing is a much more effective way to go.
I think we’re all guilty of not really listening sometimes. We’ll ask a question but not stop to really take in the answer – or is that just me? My brain sometimes moves on to the next thing while the person is still in the midst of answering my last question. I mean, I asked the question, right? TICK! Let’s move on. Hmm…maybe not. Always somewhat embarrassing when you have to ask them to repeat what they just said, isn’t it? (Or do you completely pretend you were just paying attention – a bit of a dangerous play, that one..! Yikes…)
When I’m really busy, I find it does take a bit of focus & effort to BE IN THE MOMENT and give my undivided attention to the person across from me, especially when the interaction is a bit ‘on the hop’ (ie: unplanned or unscheduled).
- Maintain eye contact when speaking with people & most importantly – whilst THEY are talking
- Keep your hands idle – no fiddling!
- Echo back what they said to check comprehension
- If the next thing pops in your head, tell yourself: “Yep, that’s next – right after I finish here.” Then mentally put it on the back-burner.
- Importantly: choose to ONLY give your attention to the most important things which are in line with your values & priorities. Say ‘NO’ to the rest. No use pretending, right?
Get it right & you’ll find there are always just the right amount of hours in any day. It’s simply a matter of knowing where our priorities & values lie, so let’s talk about that next time, ok? I hope you’ll join me.
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