For years I knew I wanted to do more, be more, contribute, leave a mark, move people, be of value and service.
I expended much energy wondering how I could do it, what it would take, who or what I needed to become.
I wondered, “What kind of person do I need to become?”
Maybe you can relate. Do you also ask yourself these questions?
I looked up at those I admired. I wanted to become like them, more real, more engaging, so easy to connect with, knowing they understood, that they’ve been there too and often still were, yet could help and offer so much.
They were just like everyone else, but somehow..totally different – so open, so wise, so authentic, so comfortable, so human, so… inspiring.
I wondered, “What work do I need to do, what do I need to learn, in what ways do I need to grow to become like that?”
I’m just a normal human being. I have flaws and imperfections - like a temper that flares when it shouldn’t, days where I just want to stay in bed, days where I completely doubt myself, bad hair days, BO days, days I’m stuck wearing pants because I forgot to shave my legs, days where it’s scrambled eggs for dinner because I couldn’t be bothered or failed to plan ahead.
The chasm between who I wanted to be and who I actually was seemed huge.
I pondered and wondered. I racked my brain. I studied, I read, I delved deeper and deeper into my own soul.
And one day I understood.
The thing I feared was the very thing I needed to embrace. Acceptance of my own authentic self was the bridge I’d been looking for.
It’s the thing you too will need to embrace if you wish to grow, to serve, to live the life you were intended for, do the work you were put on this earth to do.
Your humanity, your imperfections, your flaws, your frailty – embrace all of it.
I realised I needed to embrace the contradictions within: my fragility alongside my strength, my insecurity alongside my determination and self belief.
The evidence of that humanity, of the constant battle and determination to grow, of ways they accepted their imperfections and leveraged them to become their strengths, the constant see-saw, the yin-yang, was exactly what I’d admired in my mentors.
We often get so busy trying to be who we think we should be, who we feel we ought to be or who we desperately want to be that we lose sight of who we really are.
We become a fraudulent version of ourselves. We sell our soul. The shell becomes increasingly fragile as the substance inside drains away.
Embrace your humanity, celebrate your imperfections, remain authentically you and you will always stay connected to that endless reservoir of strength, love and inspiration that lives inside of you.
Stay true to the perfect circle of life and growth – it always has to start with your authentic self and ends with you in your most amazing, prosperous and abundant glory.
It’s time to get excited – your life is just ahead of you.
Time to do the happy dance ;)
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