When your manifestations keep missing the mark

When your manifestations keep missing the mark

If you keep finding that the people around you are manifesting the things that you wanted and it’s starting to drive you a little bit nuts, then this one’s for you. 

It‘s happened to most of us, right? There’s a car you really love that’s on your vision board and in your visualisations, and then your neighbour comes home with it!

Or maybe there’s a dream holiday that you’ve been wanting to go on FOREVER.

And again, it’s on YOUR vision board. It’s in YOUR visualisations. It’s been on YOUR list forever. And then your best friend announces, “Guess where I’m going on holiday?” And you think, “Really? Really? That’s mine!”

What the hell is going on? When you keep having these ‘close but no cigar’ moments and you think, “What am I doing wrong? Why is everyone around me getting my stuff and I can’t seem to get it?”

What I most importantly remind you of is that It’s actually a really good thing.

It’s a good thing because it’s a PREVIEW.





The Universe is giving you a preview. AND it couldn’t even be in your experience in the first place if there wasn’t some level of vibrational match.

So, when your best friend goes on your dream holiday or your neighbour comes home with your dream car, that’s the Universe giving you a little encouragement, “You’re getting there, kid!”

It’s a wink, right?

It’s letting you know that it’s within your realm of possibility.

In fact, it’s actually within your physical 3D experience. It’s right there!!!

And yes, it’s not in YOUR driveway yet.
And yes, YOU’RE not holding the ticket with YOUR name on it yet.

But it doesn’t matter.

Because remember, there is no lack. There is infinite abundance out there.

The thing that often happens when people see others around them starting to manifest the things they want for themselves is that a lack mentality can set in, where you think, “Well, if they’re getting it, that’s one less available for me.”

But that’s not how it works… and you know this….

So I’m just here to remind you that you’re not needing to buy into the lack mentality and instead, you need to remember that the things that are in your experience can only be there if there’s a certain level of VIBRATIONAL MATCH going on.

So, when you can see it…
when it shows up in YOUR Facebook newsfeed…
when it shows up in YOUR neighbour’s driveway…
when YOUR
friend is going on that dream holiday…

it’s the Universe telling you YOU are damn, DAMN close!!

Just keep going! It’s all good.

So remember that.

And then, when YOU go to that amazing holiday and your best friend turns around and says, “Oh! But I want to go there.” You just tell her, “Honey, the fact that I’m going and I’m your friend means that you’re next.”

This is how it works – there is no lack; there’s infinite abundance.

It can only be in your experience if there’s a level of a vibrational match going on already.

So if you want to keep fine-tuning your vibration so that when those things start coming closer you can keep heading towards them and accelerate towards it actually being in your hands… in your driveway… in your experience… then grab my free training!

I’ve given you the link in the description. It will help you make all those little fine-tunings, and ensure that you head towards the thing you want rather than inadvertently heading away from it.


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The Spiritual Path to Manifesting Wealth & Abundance

The Spiritual Path to Manifesting Wealth & Abundance

How can you let more wealth & abundance flow into your experience?

On this call, I spoke to Mike Dooley about the spiritual path to wealth & abundance.

We also answered YOUR questions about how to manifest a life filled with spiritual AND material wealth & abundance.

Join us to discover:

  • Is money spiritual or not – and is it ok to want it?
  • How you can align yourself with more abundance – immediately!
  • The true reason you want money and material wealth.
  • What it really takes to attract financial freedom & material wealth.

And so much more!




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How to manifest your dream house… not.

How to manifest your dream house… not.

Today we’re going to talk about why leaving your shoes in the cupboard of the display home won’t help you manifest that home. 

Apparently, in display homes – especially those big lottery homes, they have to clear the cupboards of all the shoes people leave behind while they’re inspecting it.

That’s because people watched things like “The Secret” and decided that, “Okay. If I want to manifest this house and make it mine, I have to leave something of mine behind because I’m coming back. I need to leave my energy here, and I need to show the Universe that this is my house and I’m claiming it and I expect it to be mine.”

It’s kind of cute but it’s not going to get you the house.





Simply leaving your shoes in the cupboard does not get you the house.

First of all, make sure you buy a ticket 😊

Here are some things you CAN do to help you manifest that house – or another house like it:

The very first and most important thing is that you get in vibrational alignment with the version of you who lives in that type of house.

Because just showing up in the house and going, “Oh my god! This is so amazing! I’d love to live here. This is how millionaires live.” And then hiding your daggy pair of old Converse that you were going to throw away in the cupboard and thinking that’s going to do the job…. 

That won’t do the job.

The house and YOU can only come together when there is a vibrational match – when you are the kind of person who lives in that kind of house… who expects to live in that kind of house… when you think, speak, act and feel like the kind of person who lives in that kind of house.

Incidentally, things go a bit weird sometimes for people who win lotteries and so on.

There’s a huge percentage of lottery winners – a massive percentage of lottery winners – who go broke and go back to where they were before and even further back within just a few short years.

The reason is they haven’t upleveled THEMSELVES.

They haven’t BECOME the person who has that level of money, who has that level of abundance, who lives in that kind of house.

So forget about leaving your shoes in the cupboard and doing stuff on the outside of you that are just cute token gestures.

If you don’t shift who you fundamentally are… if you don’t start acting, feeling, thinking and being that person who is a match, it’s never ever going to happen.

You’re just going to go through lots of pairs of shoes, and become a real pain in the bum to those poor real estate agents who have to clean out the cupboard every single week.

Instead, when you walk through that house (Great thing to do by the way! Absolutely do it.), visualise yourself living there.

FEEL what it feels like to be that kind of person and notice where there are some resistances in the mix.

Maybe there’s the voice in the back of your head that says, “But… I couldn’t even afford to pay the rates on this house.” 

Notice these things and then make it your work to bridge the gap.

Bridge the vibrational gap.
Bridge the mindset gap.
And bridge the practical gap.

Because certain things require a certain level of habit and confidence with managing your finances around that level of income.

You need the practical skills and the practical habits down pat so you’re ready to go.

You need to have your mindset polished up so that you don’t end up blowing all the lottery winnings and ending up broke or back where you were.

And you need to become a vibrational match so that you can bring it into your experience in the first place.

So it’s mindset, manifesting and the practical side of things. All of those need to become a match.

Remember that it’s all about you actually becoming a match to the thing you desire.

It’s not about leaving your shoes in the cupboard. That won’t make the difference.

Now, if you want to make sure you get all the tweaks done that need to be tweaked within yourself so that you can become a match to all those things you desire – whether it’s the dream house, the dream income, the dream business, the dream holiday (or whatever it is) – then grab today’s freebie because it’s the perfect thing to help you take the next step on your journey.


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Why you’re manifesting more problems

Why you’re manifesting more problems

Contrast is when things happen that you prefer not to happen – usually what we label a ‘problem’. 

Or if you want to reframe it slightly, a challenge. 

Or if you want to reframe it even more, contrast that gives you clarity about what you DO actually want.

Here’s the thing with contrast…

See, we’re raised in this world where we’re told that when stuff is unwanted, we have to fight it really hard.

But what we actually do by doing that is… it’s like quicksand – the harder you fight it, the more it sucks you in!

It sucks you under and you cannot get away from it. What then actually happens is you start spinning on the spot.

You get stuck in the contrast. 

It’s all you can see and so you just keep activating more and more of the same.

It takes a little bit of retraining, so here’s how:





Be kind to yourself. Start becoming aware that when something happens, you have a choice on how you want to react.

Yes, some things will happen that will really upset you.

Some things will upset you just a little bit, and you can choose to allow yourself to get sucked into it and go deeper into the quicksand. 

Or, you can choose to go, “I don’t like that at all.” Then stop – pause. Realise it is this contrast thing, and this is an opportunity for you to get clarity on what it is you do actually want.

From there you have another choice:

Do you want to complain that you don’t have what you really want and instead you got this thing just now AGAIN that you don’t want, or do you go, “Thank you for giving me clarity that THIS is really what I want.” And let that go. Let it go down into the quicksand without you, and you go after THIS.

Start focusing on THIS. Start looking at ways you can make THIS happen. 

Start looking for evidence on how things like that, or little signs and glimpses of it are ALREADY appearing in your experience.

You’ll actually activate more and more of this, and you’ll start moving in that direction.

So the message from this Effectology  tip is simple: 

Use the contrast as the bouncing platform to take you in the direction of where you do actually want to go. Do not allow yourself to get sucked in by it and dragged under. Because you’ll end up stuck there.

That’s a really powerful tip.

Try it on little things. Don’t go for the biggest, most important problem in your life right now. Just try it on something little. Somebody not letting you in traffic. Or something that, really, is not a big deal and just use it.

Use it to train yourself to stop, step away from it and think, “This just gave me clarity on what I do want… what I do appreciate. And look how much evidence of that there is in my life.”

And you’ll start noticing some really major shifts and it doesn’t take very long.

Off you go.

Play with that and please come back and leave me some comments to let me know how it goes.

To help you step away from contrast so you can attract more money and abundance into your experience, jump on my ‘Manifesting Money Training’.

You can get it from the link below.


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How to manifest with visualisation

How to manifest with visualisation

Okay, so you’ve been told that you should visualise.

You’ve been told that you should create a vision board and then sit with your eyes shut for 4-5 minutes a day and daydream about all the things you’d like in your life.

And like most people, you probably think that’s because the things that you visualise – the things that you put on your vision board – they’re the things that you’ll then, somehow, manage to drag into your experience.

But that’s actually not what it does.





Yes, it does help reprogram your unconscious mind.

Yes, it does help program your reticular activating system so that you’re aware of things that match what you desire when they come into your experience. So that as you’re going through life, you’re going, “Oh, good idea!”

You’ll see things that you didn’t see before.

Because you’ve programmed your unconscious to say, “It’s now important to me.”

And so yes, it does all of that and that’s powerful.

But what it also helps you do is it helps you raise your vibration.

And really, that is the one key thing that you’ve got to get good at consistently. Not just every now and then when you remember or when things work out the way you want them to. But to consistently keep yourself in that good-feeling place.

Because that is the language of the Universe.

That is how all the things that match can come into your experience.

And that is how you keep yourself open to the possibilities… to all the things that are required in order for you to have those things.

So it’s not a shopping list. It’s not about, “I want this car thing. I want this holiday thing. I want to check-in to that resort.”

It’s not about that at all.’

In fact, if that’s what you do, you’re being counter-productive.

It’s about ‘these sorts of things’ because I like the way they feel.

It’s really just pitching some ideas to the Universe and going, “You know, this sort of thing would be really cool. Or something that feels that way.”

It’s about giving you an opportunity to get excited about all the things that are possible which, as I said, raises your vibration.

And as you do that more frequently, you get used to it. You get used to living in a better-feeling place. You get used to feeling good more of the time.

I know…. We do. We have to train ourselves. We all have this set point of how we tend to feel most of the time.

Some people they are just quite low.

But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck there. You can do things that raise your set point. And then raise it again and again.

And the more you do, the more you open up to the possibilities.

So, visualisation is just about getting excited, raising your vibe, and pitching you ideas to the Universe.

If you like all of that, I’ve got a nice little freebie for you.

It’s access to my library of hypnotic meditations.

If you click the link in the description, you’ll get access to the lot and you can program your unconscious mind and the Universe to bring you what you want.

So make sure you use them and take full advantage.

I’ll see you next time.


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How to make Law of Attraction work for you

How to make Law of Attraction work for you

Hi, this is Miriam Castilla and welcome to the Manifesting Playground for Soulful Women in Business. The place where we practice the art and science of Effectology, which is all about marrying the magical with the practical so you can have more money and more time, the easy way – without all the hustle.

Today we’re going to talk about how to make Law of Attraction work for you.

So maybe you’ve read a whole lot of books and read a whole lot of blogs and watched a whole lot of videos and watched The Secret on instant auto replay over and over again. I’m told some people did that. Apparently… (Don’t know anyone who would have done such a silly thing, but anyway…)

You learned all you could because you got excited by this idea that we can put it out there, what it is we want, and actually create it. Have a say in what happens to us rather than just being these leaves being tossed in the breeze and life happening to us.

That is a really exciting idea isn’t it? Especially when you’ve been led to believe that life happens and you die.

If you’ve been working on that for a while and you’re getting mixed results maybe sometimes really cool things do happen, maybe sometimes nothing much seems to happen, and maybe at other times something crappy happens and you think “Ugh, how did I do that?!” or “Why did that even happen? Did I have anything to do with it?” then I’m here to tell you two very important things that will help you make Law of Attraction work for you:




The first is that, yep baby, you did create that crappy thing because Law of Attraction is ALWAYS on. There is no time out. There is no off switch. It is always working. This intelligence that surrounds us and we are a part of is constantly responding to us. So there is no time out. What this means is, that you have an opportunity, 24/7, to get feedback and to learn and to keep noticing what’s happening. You get results coming back all the time. Everything in your life is a result of Law of Attraction responding to you. Which means that you can constantly just pay attention, notice what’s going on, and learn from it and improve and really make Law of Attraction start to work for you.

The second thing to recognize is that, what this Law of Attraction responds to is not what you ask for but, what you MEAN. This intelligence, this matrix, this quantum field that we are a part of, it responds to your vibration. It responds to your electromagnetic signal that you are sending out into that universe, the multiverse, whatever name you want to give it. It responds to how you feel and what you truly mean. Not what you say. Not what you write down. Not the affirmations that you’re repeating a thousand time a day. They make absolutely no difference if what you’re actually feeling inside is fear, doubt, and worry.

So, it just comes down to something as simple as, how to make Law of Attraction work for you is to recognize:

Number one, that it is always working.

Number two, that is responding to you and your vibration, to how you feel.

Which means all you need to do is notice what’s going on, notice how you’re feeling, and notice how the universe is responding.

How are you feeling and what’s happening?

That’s it. It is as simple as that.

As you get better and better at noticing what is going on both inside you and outside of you and putting the two together, that is how you start to make Law of Attraction work for you.

If you’d like to get better at making it work for you, particularly in the area of money, then if you haven’t yet watched it, please grab yourself my free Money Manifesting Training.

I’ll pop the link in the description for you. It’s 25-minutes of punchy tips and tricks that will help you manifest more money more easily. There’s even a handy little cheat sheet that you can hold onto to remind you of what you learned in the video training.

Until next time, keep on embracing your beautiful and unlimited potential.

Bye for now!


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