The difference between personal responsibility and self-blame when it comes to manifesting what you want

The difference between personal responsibility and self-blame when it comes to manifesting what you want

Hi, this is Miriam Castilla and welcome to the Manifesting Playground for Soulful Women in Business – the place where you get to marry the magical with the practical so you can have more money and more time, the easy way – without all the extra hustle!

Let’s talk about the difference between personal responsibility and self-blame.

You see, I teach that you are the creator of your life. When most people start to get that they go, “Yaaay, that is so awesome! It means that I have 100% responsibility for the world I’m creating!” Which means that not long after that they go, “Ooh, shit… I’ve created this, and that, and that, and that… if I’m 100% responsible, it means I get the blame. I’m to blame for all of the things that are wrong in my life,” and they don’t like that. That usually then leads to a state of guilt, self-judgment, and even self-punishment, and that’s not a good thing.

So the thing to recognize is that when you go into a pattern of self-blame and self-judgment and guilt, you’re actually acting from a place of ego. The ego that is very clever at keeping you stuck in an old pattern. When you’re so busy putting all your energy into blaming yourself, into going over what went wrong, how you’re the cause of it all and how you really just need to get your act together and stop screwing everything up – it takes a lot of energy to do that. When your energy is tied up in that self-blame, and that guilt, and that rehashing everything that went wrong, it means that you don’t have energy available to create the new. It keeps you from moving forward. That’s how clever the ego is.

It wants to keep you in the same old pattern where it feels you’ll be safe.





Remember that where your attention goes, your energy flows.

Everything that happens is neither good nor bad, it’s just feedback. It’s an opportunity for you to learn and decide to make some adjustments. Redirect your focus. Done! That is ALL you need to worry about when it comes to the past.

Whether things went right or wrong is almost irrelevant. It is all just feedback and an opportunity to learn so that you can move forward in an even better, even more beautiful way.

The thing is that money is usually the place where people feel the biggest urgency around this stuff, and where they beat themselves up the most. In my Magnetic Money Program, I see it all the time. People really blaming themselves and feeling so bad for all the things they did wrong, both on the practical physical level with their money, and on an energetic level when it comes to their money.

So that’s why I’ve created a special little video training that really helps you address the five reason you’re not manifesting more money and what to do about them. You can grab it from the link in the description, it’s totally free. It’s a 25-minute short, sharp, and shiny video training that even comes with a little handy cheat sheet to remind you of everything you learned in the training so that you can totally stay on track and take 100% personal responsibility and power to move you forward rather than being stuck in self-blame, guilt, and all that crap. We don’t want that. We want to move forward into abundance.

Grab yourself that from the link in the description and until I see you next time, remember to keep on embracing your amazing and unlimited potential.



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How to grow your biz at the speed of light

How to grow your biz at the speed of light

Hi, this is Miriam Castilla and welcome to the Manifesting Playground for Soulful Women in Business – the place where you get to marry the magical with the practical so you can have more money and more time, the easy way – without all the extra hustle!

Would you like to grow your business at the speed of light?

I know, sounds pretty sexy, doesn’t it? Who wouldn’t? “Of course I would, Miriam! I want to do it now, now, now, instantly! Yesterday! Last week!”

Well, let’s talk about that and how that’s actually possible.

To do that, we’re going to jump topics to physics.

Why physics? Because the laws of physics describe the laws of the universe in which we live. The laws of the universe that govern you, your body, your business, and everything around you.

Now, the old model of physics is Newtonian physics, which is the physics of the physical. The physics of cause and effect. What that’s all about is the things you can see. At that level, it’s all about cause and effect, which means it’s about putting in some effort, pushing the boulder, transmuting that energy into a different form of energy so the boulder rolls down the hill and then it crashes into a cave wall and that changes it into a different kind of energy.

So, these are the laws of physics, energy laws, laws of motion, laws of cause and effect. That is the old model of reality, though, because, since Newton (God bless him) gave us his laws and helped us make sense of the world around us, we have moved on to much, much smaller components of our reality. We have dived into and started to uncover the world of quantum physics.

At the level of quantum physics, the subatomic level, the level of electrons, protons, quarks, and all sorts of little subatomic particles that we didn’t even know existed several years ago, it’s a whole different story. At that level of physics, which is still the physics of our reality because that is what every particle in the universe is made of – those are the building blocks of life itself – at that level, everything is actually energy. Yes, we’re talking about subatomic particles, but only to discover that they are nothing but pure potential and energy waves. In fact, they only become solid state matter when an intelligent observer – which is you or me or the instruments that we use in labs – observes them. That is when this particle energy wave decides to become a “thing.”

So we literally create our reality through observation, through our focus and awareness.




It’s a pretty crazy world, the world of quantum physics. It also tells us that everything is linked and communicating all the time and it communicates not by sending some signal that takes a little bit of time and has to travel through time and space, no, it communicates instantly. In fact, that even happens inside your body. In your body, there are chemicals being released without any electrical signal needing to be sent. There is no time delay between the trigger in your brain and the chemicals being released in your big toe. It’s instant communication and we still haven’t completely worked out how that all works, but we know it’s there.

So we’ve got electrons that are popping in and out of reality, going back to that state of pure potential, and we also have this reality that’s constantly rearranging itself, and is affected by consciousness itself… which is YOU!

Because you are energy, just like all these particles and subatomic particles I’ve been talking about. YOU are energy, but you are energy with consciousness. How cool is that?!

Just think about that.

You are energy that is aware of itself.

You are energy that can modulate and change its own frequency, and you get to affect the particles and the world around you by observing them.

You can change your world in an instant with the power of your focus, the power of your consciousness, which means the power of your belief and the power of your expectation. You are constantly rearranging and recreating your world. The trouble is… most people don’t realize they’re doing it, and they just keep creating the same reality over and over again. They’re living in that Bill Murray movie “Groundhog Day.” That is life for most people. Every day, the same story. But Bill Murray does something different – he LEARNS every single day and he EVOLVES. You can do the same. Your thoughts create your reality, and you get to choose your thoughts.

So, I want to guide you towards a meditation that’s going to kind of help you do that in a very conscious way. In my meditation library – which hopefully you’re a member of because it’s totally free and there are 52 hypnotic meditations that help you do all sorts of cool stuff (and if you’re not yet a member, click the link in the description) – there is one very special meditation called Quantum Visualisation. It really helps you tap into that quantum field and start to create your reality. It’s a super cool meditation. If you’ve seen it and you thought the word was a bit weird and you avoided it because you’re not a physics geek, go back! You’re more than a physics geek, you are the creator of your life and that is incredibly powerful! It means you don’t need to really totally understand the laws of physics, because you ARE the laws of physics personified.

Help yourself to that Quantum Visualisation which you will find in the meditation library.

Until I see you next time, keep on embracing your incredible and totally unlimited potential.



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How rich can you get?

How rich can you get?

Hi, this is Miriam Castilla and welcome to the Manifesting Playground for Soulful Women in Business – the place where you get to marry the magical with the practical so you can have more money and more time, the easy way – without all the extra hustle!

How rich do you think you can get?

And another question: When I say “get rich,” does that trigger you? Does that make you feel a bit squirmy and uncomfortable?

Interesting, right?

So I want to talk about the paradox of conscious evolution. Sounds pretty cool, right?

The thing is that most people who start working with me in particular and who I see out there wanting to really look at Law of Attraction, the power of the universe, the power of their unconscious mind… are mainly interesting in how to get rich – how to get some more money in the bank. And that’s totally cool because money is important, but because they’re looking at spirituality as a means to achieve that, it actually means they’re also interested in their inner riches, in the richness of their inner life.

What happens is that when they first start, their focus is very much on their outer world. They’re focusing on the lack of enough money, how much they want more, the things that are going wrong, the things that are still not quite as they want them to be, and all their focus is outside of them. But as they start working on their inner world, they start to discover and unearth and connect to their inner riches. They start to realize how rich the world within them is and how many riches already lay inside of them that they can dive into and thoroughly enjoy and kind of bathe in. It’s a beautiful feeling to know that your inner world is so incredibly rich and there is so much beauty and abundance in there.




As you continue doing this work and taking your focus within and really diving deep and plugging into the power that exists right there within you and discover how awesome that feels, the scales start to tip. You’re actually focusing on your inner world, on your inner abundance, on your inner riches, and you stop caring so much about the outside world and, paradoxically, what happens is that the outer world starts to shift and mirror the inner world. Your outer world also starts to become more rich, and more abundant.

Remember, “As within, so without.”

There’s a reason for all of these beautiful old sayings!

As you start to discover your inner world, that is when your outer world can shift.

While your focus is on the outer world where you don’t have any power and where everything is happening TO you, you have no control and you’re not going to be able to get what you want. But as you start to dive within and really plug into that incredible unlimited power that exists within you and just revel in how beautiful and abundant that is, you’re going to stop caring so much about the outer world, which means all that resistance you had falls away, and the outer world shifts and becomes magically abundant also. You’re going to be in a totally different place, because THAT will be the cherry on top – as you’ve discovered something much more important.

The reason why people want all the outer riches is that they want to feel rich, fulfilled, and abundant within.

So, the way to maintain your connection to your inner riches, my darling, is of course through meditation. There are many other ways, but the easiest way that you can do it without me there to guide you through some other stuff, is through daily meditation. If you keep up that beautiful practice, that means that every time you sit down and close your eyes you’re giving yourself an opportunity to really connect to and experience the riches within.

In my meditation library I actually have a very specific meditation that I’m going to suggest for you – it is called The Vibration of Abundance. It helps you connect to that vibration of abundance inside of you, so that the scales can tip, and your outer world can start to match your beautiful and abundant inner world.

So, if you are not yet a member of my totally free meditation library, then click the link in the description and sign up now. If you already are a member, just jump on it and look for The Vibration of Abundance and spend some time enjoying that meditation because it’s absolutely beautiful and it will help you continue to embrace your beautiful and unlimited potential.

See what I did there?

Bye, for now!


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3 reasons you can’t manifest when the stakes get higher

3 reasons you can’t manifest when the stakes get higher

Hi, this is Miriam Castilla. Welcome to the Manifesting Playground for Soulful Women in Business – the place where you get to marry the magical with the practical so you can have more money and more time, the easy way – without all the extra hustle!

Why is it that when the stakes start getting higher, it becomes so much harder to manifest what you want?

Do you experience that?

I’ve been there myself. I had the car parking fairy giving me rockstar carparks – no matter where I was going. Fringe Festival in Adelaide, city overflowing with locals and tourists from all over the world… not a carpark to be found in the whole city, but mine was always there waiting, right outside the ticket box or the venue I was going to. Tickets to concerts, invitations to really cool parties and events, or even free holidays. I could manifest all sorts of things like that, but when it came to clients, income, or a more effortless flow to my business I was hitting a brick wall.

So, why is it so easy with the little stuff but when the stakes get higher, we hit that brick wall?

Let me tell you three reasons why:




Number one, we have this belief that we’re raised with in hard work. That if you really want that tangible, serious outcome that gives you respect and acknowledgement from the people around you, you have to deserve it and have earnt it through your hard work. That is why in the Effectology Method Program we clear that old bullshit story with hypnosis, because that’s just not true… unless you choose to believe it and then it becomes very, very true for you!

The second thing is that you don’t have stability in your vibration. You’re not energetically and vibrationally stable enough and that means that as soon as something means more to you, as soon as you’re a little bit more attached to it, you start worrying and doubting and anytime something appears to not be going right you worry even more which throws your vibration off even more.

You don’t have that stability, which means means your vibration is very susceptible to every little thing that’s going on in your outside world.

You’re not controlling life, life is controlling you.

The only way that you’re going to get past that is with consistency.

Consistency of practice of stability in your alignment. That means you have to do those things that bring you into alignment and help you stay in alignment, CONSISTENTLY. Not just for a week, or month, or here and there, or when you remember, or when you really want something, but ALL THE TIME. In the beginning it’ll be harder work because you’re not used to it, and then once you get to a place where you actually have that beautiful flow and that becomes your new normal, it actually becomes very easy and there’s no way you’d ever go back to not practicing and doing the things that keep you in alignment.

It’s a little bit like brushing your teeth. You know, when you were little your mum probably had to force you to do it a few times, but now you wouldn’t really want to leave the house without doing it. it would just feel weird and your whole day would feel off.

And the third one is a lack of faith. You don’t really believe it. You don’t really trust it. You kind of hope it does happen, but deep in your heart you didn’t believe it. Let’s be honest. That faith can only come from proving yourself right.

You really do need to get over that hurdle and prove yourself right so that you believe it. That means that you’ve gotta stick with it and the only way you can stick with it often enough and for long enough that you can prove yourself right so that that faith becomes innate, is through deep immersion.

That means that you dive into an environment where you practise this and you see the results consistently enough that you can then shift your doubt to faith. You do that for long enough that it sticks… that the scales tip.

This is why my Effectology Method Program is a 6-month program.

There are no silver bullets!

It’s only through immersion and consistency and the strength of your desire, which is what’s going to make you take that dive into the immersion and keep up the consistency, and if you have a support network around you like we do in the Effectology Method Program that helps you stay on track, that’s fabulous, but it’s only through the depth of your immersion, the level of your consistency, and the level of your desire that you can break through.

That is how you get to that place where you DO have faith, you ARE consistently stable enough in your vibration, and you no longer have all those old BS beliefs that keep holding you back.

The best consistent habit that I can recommend to you to help you stay in alignment and reach alignment every single day is meditation. There is a reason why every spiritual teacher on earth will suggest meditation, and will highly, highly recommend you meditate. it allows you to dive deeper within. It’s a little moment of self immersion and it’s the consistency of that practice that then helps you get those results that produce the faith.

So, if you haven’t got access to my meditation library yet, please grab it now. It’s totally free! There are 52 meditations, one for each week of the year, and they’re hypnotic which means they really help you generate a certain state and achieve a certain outcome and connect you very deeply with your unconscious mind. grab that from the link in the description and get practicing!

Until I see you next time, keep on embracing your beautiful and utterly unlimited potential!



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Why you never have enough time

Why you never have enough time

Do you find you don’t have enough time? Why is that?

No, I’m quite serious, why is that? I know you’re busy, I know you’ve got lots to do, but my question to you is truly “Why do you feel you don’t have enough time to do the things that you need to be doing? To do the things that really make a difference?”

The thing is… who controls your time?

You know of people who have the same 24 hours in the day as you and they’re doing what it is you want to be doing… but you’re not, and you’re the one who controls your time.

At the end of the day it, again, comes down to taking 100% responsibility.

Let me just tell you, I have been there. I’m not lecturing you as though I’ve got it all together. I have ABSOLUTELY been there. I have missed deadlines. I have been overwhelmed. I have been snowed under, and it STILL happens to me from time to time.

What I’ve learned is that if you want to get what you need out of your time, so that you can feel good about how it’s been spent and what it is you’ve achieved from it, you need 3 things:




You need clarity, you need focus, and you need vibrational and energetic alignment.

Because time is actually relative. Time is elastic. You can expand time, and you can shrink time with the power of your focus. Time is totally relative. Einstein taught us that, right? It is simply a perception of, “Ooh, that hour has just flown past” and, “Oh my god, these 5 minutes are just stretching on forever.” Time is totally relative and you get to choose through the power of your focus, clarity, and energetic alignment as to how much you expand that time.

Your focus chooses, and your alignment decides how much power and leverage you get out of that time.

It is really about mastering both your focus AND your energy. It is again about marrying the magical with the practical. Your focus is really something you need to train yourself on. Your energy is the same, but it comes from that otherworldly place deep within you, that mystical mysterious place. Your energetic alignment is where your incredibly unlimited power lies. When you marry that with the focus of your prefrontal cortex and the 3D reality around you, that’s when you bring the two together…

And baby that is the next big bang that you’ve been looking for!

That is what helps you step forward and fully claim your power as a spiritual being having an amazingly fabulous physical experience.

So this is also why in my Effectology Method program, I actually give my students pre-study that helps them really nail these elements so that they can create the space they need in their life to do the program, and also to start experiencing that sense of calm. By doing that pre-study, if they follow every single step I give them, what they actually can do is take a 5 day working week and shrink it down to a 4 day working week and even get more done more effortlessly through that process.

Now, if you’d like just a little bit of that, then grab yourself today’s freebie which is the Effectiveness Book. It gives you my Top 7 really practical steps for getting more done in less time. Help yourself to that from the link in the description.

Remember, if you also marry that with energetic alignment, it will give you incredibly powerful leverage so I do suggest that you also incorporate something like a daily morning meditation practice, then bring in these powerful steps I share with you in that Effectiveness Book… and watch the magic happen!

Keep on embracing your beautiful and unlimited potential, and I’ll see you next time!



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