Got a money guilt complex? Read This!

Got a money guilt complex? Read This!

Do you find yourself at dinner with friends and feel like you’re the only one worrying about the bill?

Do you enviously see other women booking into spa days … while you’re squeezing the last bit of face cream out of a tube you bought 2 years ago?

Or maybe you LOVE to spend money – as long as it’s on OTHERS & not on you..?

No matter how it shows up, a money guilt complex is no fun.

But although it can feel really isolating, I want you to know:

You are NOT alone!

Here’s how others have described it:

I feel bad just for wanting to spend money on makeup and look after myself.

I happily invest in the stock market, but I’m too afraid to spend any cash on myself. 

I’ve been frugal for years and just realized what an unhealthy relationship I have with money.

I had a bad experience with money in the past. And even though I’m financially okay now, I’m still afraid to spend.

I’m afraid to buy a designer handbag I’ve been saving for – but meanwhile, I bought six other bags and spent more money in the process!

These are common stories. …  Always saving for the next thing. Afraid to spend money… not knowing why.

In this episode, we’ll give you some insight into what causes this – so you can change it.
And I’ll share my favorite HACK to liberate you from money guilt FAST.

But first – let’s talk about where this guilt complex & fear of spending comes from.

 

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Let’s talk about the power of stories:

Stories are powerful. Humans have shared information through stories since the dawn of time.
And stories are HYPNOTIC! We hypnotise each other (& ourselves) with the stories we tell.

But do you remember some of the stupid stories your parents told you as a kid?
I noticed a lot of them were about our eyes:

  • Reading in the dark is bad for your eyes.
  • Sitting too close to the TV is bad for your eyes. 
  • If you don’t eat your carrots, it’s bad for your eyes
  • If you cross your eyes, they might get stuck like that. 
  • And if you keep your eyes open while sneezing, your eyeballs might pop out. 

A rather disproportionate level of concern for the welfare of our eyes, I think…..

And there’s more:

  • Cracking your knuckles will give you arthritis. 
  • Swallowed gum takes seven years to digest. 
  • Swim after eating & you’ll drown. (I would’ve drowned so many times by now!)
  • Swallow watermelon seeds and one will grow in your stomach. 

And of course everybody’s favorite:  Santa knows if you’ve been naughty or nice!

You’ll notice these stories are about trying to control our behaviour through fear.

As children, we believed them and fell in line. As we grew up, we realized they were just stories and not true.

But ask yourself:
“If I still believed those stories I was told as a kid, what would my life be like?”

Stories are powerful and hypnotic. And what’s even more powerful is the UNCONSCIOUS STORIES we pick up through what we hear, see & experience.

If we see our parents stressed and worried about money, constantly tired from working too hard, we tell ourselves a story and we start to believe it.

You take on unconscious stories about your parents’ experiences… or YOUR PERCEPTION of their experience.

So your job is to make sense of what’s true and what’s not true – what’s resourceful and what’s not resourceful – what’s going to help you in life – and what’s going to hinder and hold you back.

If your parents told you there’s monsters under the bed, will you let it ruin your sleep for the rest of your life?

As we start to recognize the stories that our parents told us, it’s important to bring a sense of compassion.

Because they were mostly trying to keep us safe. They passed on stories they believed or that were based on their experience. They meant well and they were trapped in their own stories.

When you recognize that it was just THEIR story, you can liberate yourself and decide to tell a new story.

Take a minute and think about some of the money stories your parents told you – or that you took on based on what you saw or heard.

  • What did you OBSERVE your parents do? 
  • How did you HEAR your parents say about money?
  • And what did TELL YOU about money?

Here are some MONEY STORIES I was told:

Do you think we’re rich?
Money doesn’t grow on trees.
You’ve gotta have money to make money.
Must be nice for rich people.
I wonder what they did to get THAT?? <insert suspicious look>

As you look at the  things your parents told you about money, you’ll recognize THEIR fear, THEIR guilt.

Maybe they told you not to be too greedy because when you asked for something, it triggered their fear and lack mentality. Maybe they felt bad for not being able to provide it and just wanted to make you stop asking, so they told you “Don’t be greedy!”

So none of it is REALLY about the money… it’s mostly about feeling safe!

This is why compassion and forgiveness will heal your old money stories – yours and theirs. 

But there’s more to it than just ditching money guilt & feeling ok about spending money on yourself.

Because not only do these old money stories make you feel bad and stop you from spending money that you’d really like to spend…

They also BLOCK your flow of abundance!

Because if you believe that money’s bad and that it’s not okay to want more, you will unconsciously block money from flowing to you.

But it gets worse, because:
If you stop money from flowing OUT, you’re also blocking more money from flowing IN!

Just like blocking the OUTLET of a hose stops more from flowing through the INLET, by being unwilling to spend money, you’re blocking more from flowing to you.

Which means you need to expand your comfort zone around spending money.

An easy way is to use token gestures:

Next time you go shopping, don’t compare which toilet paper is cheaper – just buy the one you want.
Go to the deli counter and buy the cheese you like – not the one on sale.

Little token gestures like this make a HUGE difference because they disrupt neural pathways.
Token gestures help you start to create a new story and expand your comfort zone around abundance.
They challenge old stories, which starts to break them down.

This is a muscle you need to exercise.

A great place to start is to decide what you want your new story to be.

If you were telling a story about money & abundance to your child, what would you want to say?

What story would you want them to take forward through life?

Gift yourself that saME story!

Tell yourself a story that’ll EMPOWER YOU, that opens you up to possibilities and makes you feel more abundant – right here, right now. 

Because YOU get to choose your story!

Here’s a hack that will help you wire that new story in faster:

Look for EVIDENCE of the new story being true!

The more you look, the more you’ll find. And that will help reinforce the new story and wire it in faster & deeper. It will help your conscious & unconscious minds to get on board with the new story faster.

Now of course you still want to save money, right? But WITHOUT feeling guilty…

So it’s important to find a happy balance between being smart with money – and having an abundance mindset. You want to be thrifty, but you want it to feel empowering.
And you want to feel GOOD about spending money on yourself – when you choose to.

That’s what the episodes linked below are all about. So be sure to check those out next.

And in the meantime, find out what your Money Habit Archetype is! You can TAKE THE QUIZ HERE. 

That will help you uncover more of those old money stories.

Enjoy!


xx Miriam

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A simple exercise to identify limiting beliefs

A simple exercise to identify limiting beliefs

Contrary to popular belief, limiting beliefs are NOT difficult to identify!

In fact – that in itself is a limiting belief!

Limiting beliefs can cause you to procrastinate, self-sabotage, freeze up in fear and miss out on golden opportunities. They generally make life difficult.

But to IDENTIFY limiting beliefs is incredibly quick & easy!

In this episode, I’m going to show you exactly how easy and simple identifying your limiting beliefs is.
I’ll share the ONE simple question that helps you do it – and show you how to use it!

 

 

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Why is this process so simple? Because we deal with the issue at its source – your unconscious mind!

It’s your unconscious mind that CHOOSES which beliefs you take on. And it’s tapping into your unconscious mind by asking ONE simple question that helps you identify those beliefs.

And when it comes to later transforming and CHANGING those beliefs, it’s again quickest & most effective to work with your unconscious mind. But let’s worry about IDENTIFYING your limiting beliefs first!

This is actually the most important – and empowering – part of the process.

Because when you shine that light of consciousness, you are bringing that belief out of the unconscious and into your conscious awareness. And THAT is when you’re back in the driver’s seat and in a position of power.

To do that is really not that difficult. In fact, I’ve created an entire DIY system called the Limiting Belief Busting Process to help you identify and transform your limiting beliefs.

In a moment, I’ll take you through the first part of that process – to IDENTIFY YOUR LIMITING BELIEF.

We do this based on one simple principle: “Your Reasons Demonstrate Your Beliefs.”

Here’s how to apply this: Any time I ask you, “Why do you do that, say that or think that?” The REASON you give me basically tells me what you believe. It’s the beliefs you hold that inform your actions, words & thoughts.

I’m sure you’ve noticed this in your own life. Sometimes you will say something to another person and they make it mean something entirely different. That’s because they hold a belief that is coloring their perception. We all filter our experiences through this lens of our perception. And this lens is colored based on our belief system.

We don’t really experience the world as it is. We experience the world as we believe it to be.

Any time you experience negative emotions, it’s a sign that you have a limiting belief. So if you’re wondering where to begin, just look at your negative emotions. Because they indicate that you’re being triggered by a negative limiting belief. So your emotions are very helpful because they provide a signal and a clue that points you in the right direction.

So let’s demonstrate how easy it is to identify limiting beliefs. I’ll give you an example and you can play along at home with your own limiting belief.

We start with a negative emotion – identifying both the emotion and the situation it relates to.
(incidentally, if you watch the video for this episode, you’ll see me demonstrate this process using the Limiting Belief Busting Toolkit)

Let’s pretend it’s, “I feel really stressed out and scared about launching my new group program”

So we’ve identified the feeling and what it’s related to.

Now let’s use the principle I shared that our reasons demonstrate our beliefs.
We want to find out the reason for this emotion. How do we do that…? SIMPLE! We just ask!!

We literally ask, ”Why do I feel that way about this situation?


Why do you feel really stressed out and scared? 

You could feel any other way. You could feel excited and inspired, yet you choose to feel stressed out and scared. Why do you feel that way?

And your answer will show you the underlying belief.

Let’s pretend the answer is, “Because I still feel like I don’t know enough and people won’t buy it anyway.”

So what we actually have in this example, is something that happens a lot in real life. And that is that we’ve identified TWO limiting beliefs!

First we have, ‘I still don’t know enough’.

And that’s definitely a big limiting belief..  and also very common in the women business owners I work with. This is why they tend to keep enrolling in more courses, doing more marketing programs and hiring yet another new coach.… (ring any bells..?)

So ‘I still don’t know enough‘ is definitely a limiting belief that’s going to cause all sorts of trouble and hold you back.

But we’ve also identified a second limiting belief, ‘People won’t buy it anyway’.

This is a limiting belief that people won’t buy what you have to offer – that they don’t want it.

So by getting clear on the negative emotion and asking what the reason for that feeling is, we’ve identified not one, but TWO limiting beliefs!

If we were continuing to work through the Limiting Belief Busting Process, we would now release and replace these beliefs. And we would do that by focusing on one at a time. My recommendation is to start with the one that holds the most energy – the secondary one will usually fall away in the process.

So there you have it! It’s that quick and easy to identify your limiting beliefs. 

 

All we’ve basically done is ask one question, ‘Why do you feel this negative emotion?’

By identifying the belief, you’ve taken away its power and done the lion share of the work.

Remember, this was an unconscious limiting belief until now. By identifying it, you’ve brought it into your conscious awareness. You’re literally shining a light of consciousness on it and put yourself in a position of power.

So now you can ask yourself, “Do I really want this limiting belief to inform the way I show up, the way I run my business, the way I do life? Do I want to start looking at things differently? And in what ways can I start to do that?”

Everything changes once you’ve identified that limiting belief.

Tell me in the comments below: What’s your biggest takeaway from this episode?

PS: If you’d like support with identifying your limiting beliefs AND want to go the next step where you release and transform them, grab yourself the Limiting Belief Busting Toolkit. You get everything you need: worksheets, a tutorial and access to live workshops! PLUS, it includes HYPNOSIS to ensure that new empowering belief gets wired into your unconscious as quickly and deeply as possible.  Just click this link to get access now.

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Removing limiting beliefs about money – common mistakes

Removing limiting beliefs about money – common mistakes

So I have good news and bad news when it comes to removing limiting beliefs about money

The bad news first:

The bad news is that you have limiting beliefs about money. Lots of them!

I do too. Actually we all do. Even Oprah has limiting beliefs about money – because she’s human.

Let’s talk about the good news, shall we?

The good news is that removing limiting beliefs about money can actually be super simple and easy.

So in this episode we’re going to talk about the three most common ways that people get it wrong when it comes to removing limiting beliefs about money.

And we’ll talk about why the simple and easy approach is actually also a lot more effective.

 

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Like everyone, I’ve had and still have my fair share of limiting beliefs about money. We all have them. The thing is, are they getting in the way of us having the life and the abundance and the amount of money that we want or not?

Like most people, when I first realized that it was my own negative thinking that was the biggest obstacle to me having all the abundance and joy and success that I wanted, I also got worried, like REALLY worried!

And so I started to dedicate myself to doing all I could to clearing those limiting beliefs and removing those money blocks and obstacles.  

To be honest, I became totally obsessed with doing my mindset work.

I was doing affirmations, making vision boards, I journaled and I visualized. I did everything. I was a total mindset junkie and I went to every seminar I could possibly go to and read every book I could read.

But I soon figured out that the harder I tried, the more difficult it seemed to get. I was stuck, spinning on a hamster wheel. And eventually I decided I really needed to take a different approach. And so I completely changed my approach to my money mindset work and to removing limiting beliefs about money.

And it really, really worked. It was like the floodgates opened and suddenly everything became easy.

That’s when I went from being a single mum on welfare to building my own business in finance. It took off, I won awards, I had a leveraged multiple six figure income, I bought the house of my dreams, a beachfront apartment and other investment properties, started traveling the world, got paid to speak and still get paid to speak on the stages of some of my heroes and mentors.

My life changed quite drastically.

And what’s more, I’ve sharing these practices and everything I learned with my students and also help them create really abundant and joyful lives and businesses so they can show up and fully be all that they were born to be. And we do it the simple and easy way.

So in this episode, I’m going to share with you the top 3 mindset traps people can fall into when it comes to removing limiting beliefs about money.

Number 1:

Having a giant daily checklist of mindset practices you feel you have to do before you’re even allowed to start your day.

What you’re doing there when you put that giant checklist between you and the abundance you want, you’re telling yourself that you have to work really hard to get what you want and that the more you do, the more you get in return.

And that’s kind of the opposite of what we’re looking to do.

Number 2:

The second way that people get in their own way is they get really addicted to mindset work.

I have a very unladylike saying around that and it basically goes “Don’t go digging in your crap just for the sake of it – you’ll just come up smelly.”

Because the more you look, the more you’ll find.

If you start consistently looking for limiting beliefs, then spend time working on clearing them, then look for more, you’re going to keep finding more and more and more. It’ll take up all your time and focus.

Worst of all, you will convince yourself that you are broken, that there is something wrong with you, and that you cannot have the abundance you want until you’ve sorted this stuff out.

So those are the first two ways most people put a block on allowing abundance to flow to them.

There is a third one I want to share with you which is actually the biggest mindset trap of all.

But first I want to know, of the couple I’ve just talked about, which resonates with you?

Please share it with me in the comments below.

Number 3:

Now… let’s talk about the number one way that people get themselves in trouble and keep themselves stuck with their actual mindset practices.

It’s simply that they do not allow themselves to graduate energetically to the next level.

Here’s how it shows up:

When you first start on this journey, you know, you start to look for the evidence of abundance that’s all around you and you celebrate all of it. And that’s great.

But eventually you need to graduate from going, “Oh my God, that’s so amazing! Somebody just paid me for my work“, to feeling quite comfortable and normal about it.

That’s when you graduate and start look toward the next level of abundance.

Think about it…. Millionaire You (as I like to call it), that next more abundant version of you, would THEY run around the house yelling, screaming, and high-fiving everyone for a $100 sale?

They probably wouldn’t.

They would acknowledge it. They would feel grateful, absolutely, because one of the keys to letting the money flow is to appreciate and acknowledge every cent.

But it’s the WAY you do it.

If you treat it like it’s some big unexpected windfall, then that’s energetically what you’re putting out there. But the abundant, ‘Millionaire You’ would go “I so appreciate every single cent. It all feels totally natural and normal, and I look forward to more”.

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Simple Money Mindset Hacks To Get Your Income Flowing.

Simple Money Mindset Hacks To Get Your Income Flowing.

​Has improving your money mindset been on your mind? (No pun intended.)

There’s a LOT of information out there on how to clear your money blocks and get more income flowing.
Some is really good, some is just awful & most of it is utterly confusing and way too complicated.

So today we’re going to focus on simple money mindset hacks to get your income flowing.

We’ll cover some easy strategies you can use any time, anywhere to improve your money mindset and get more money flowing.

And along the way I’m going to share with you 3 easy ways to clear your money blocks that are so simple, a ten-year-old can do them.

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I specialise in helping women entrepreneurs clear their money blocks and improve their money mindset so they can take confident control of their money and attract plenty more.

When we first start working together, most people are surprised by how simple some of the things are will really improve your money mindset.

That’s because we’re working with the unconscious mind.

And when you understand how it works, you can tap into that and make life easy for yourself because the unconscious is that part of you that does make life easy.

Its job is to take things off your plate and get them done without you needing to think about it. 

Basically it puts things on autopilot so you don’t have to think about them.

It makes sure that you keep breathing, and your heart keeps pumping. 

It also helps you make tying your shoelaces/driving a car/riding a pushbike so easy that you don’t have to think about that stuff anymore – once it’s been passed to your unconscious mind.

So simple mindset money hacks are also actually the ones that tend to be most effective… because they work WITH your unconscious rather than against it.

Today I’ve handpicked 3 really easy ways for you to clear your money blocks – that give you the biggest bang for your buck.

Because simple things are EASY TO REMEMBER, EASY TO PRACTICE and give you THE MOST PROGRESS – FAST!

Two things to understand before we go there:

NUMBER ONE: Have you heard the saying “cells that fire together wire together” or “cells out of sync fail to link”?

When you understand what those sayings really mean you can use them to your advantage, to really clear your money blocks, because those blocks are just recurring patterns of thought.

They’re beliefs that have become wired deeply into your unconscious; neural pathways firing automatically over and over and over again.

As you become aware of that, you can start to break those old patterns. And it’s simple to do.

Neural pathways strengthen if you keep using them. And when you stop using them, they weaken.

Here’s an analogy I like to use: Imagine there’s a path through the forest that connects two villages, and you’ve discovered this little path. It’s a handy shortcut so you keep using it. After a while some of your friends join you and the word gets out and more and more people use this shortcut. Eventually the Council gets wind of it and says, “Okay, we’re going to turn this into a proper foot path” and lays asphalt down. And eventually it actually becomes a road, perhaps even a four lane highway, because it keeps getting used.

Now imagine that something happens – for some reason that highway stops being used. The asphalt starts cracking. Plants and flowers start sprouting through, and over time everything breaks down and atrophies and reverts back to that beautiful forest it once was.

The same thing happens in your brain.

If you keep firing the same pathways they strengthen, they become the dominant thing that automatically fires without you thinking about it. And if you stop using those pathways, they start to atrophy – because the mind, the brain, the entire body is a really effective organism and it’s not going to keep nourishing and feeding and fueling and keeping something going that isn’t of any use to you.

So remembering that is really important in helping you understand why these three tips are so powerful.

The NUMBER TWO thing to understand is that you only have so much mental bandwidth on any given day.

There’s only so much your brain can focus on. You know this, because you get overwhelmed.

(This is why it’s important to turn off notifications on your phone and not look at it until you’ve done what you really need to do for yourself each morning).

We want to use that knowledge to create a “crowding-out effect”.

By crowding out the thing that’s NOT serving you with something that does serve you, you take advantage of the fact that there’s only so much of that resource to go around.

There’s only so much bandwidth.

And once you’ve taken it all up with something really positive and empowering there’s nothing left over for the negative unhelpful stuff.

So with these three tips, we’re going to take maximum advantage of both of these brain principles.

TIP NUMBER ONE: Crowd It Out.

All you need to do is notice the evidence of abundance of all the money you do have in your life and shift your focus more and more towards that – because what you focus on expands. 

Where attention goes energy flows. Cells that fire together wire together, right?

By constantly focusing on and looking for what is working, the money that is there, the abundance that is flowing, everything that is always working out for you, there’s no space and time to focus on the other stuff.

TIP NUMBER TWO: Amplify It!

In that moment where you’re noticing the evidence of abundance, the money’s rolled in, something wonderful happened, you want to punctuate it. Punctuate that abundance with what I call an “evidence mantra”.

Right in that moment where you’re noticing the evidence of abundance you’re going to punctuate it and amplify it by adding that evidence mantra, which can be something like “That’s right! And there’s plenty more where that came from!”

What this mantra does is it reinforces to yourself that money has arrived, that abundance is always there, that you expect more of it, and that this actually is a pattern you’re becoming aware of, a pattern that you’re starting to reinforce.

And this is how you hypnotize yourself into abundance rather than hypnotizing yourself into poverty.

Once you’ve put that evidence mantra out there, you might find that you want to keep going – and you totally can. You can say “…and this is only the beginning! This is just the tip of the iceberg. Money’s constantly flowing to me. I know that I always have money flowing to me. And yes, there are times when I worry about it, but then money just comes. Money is always continuing to flow to me.”

 And as you do that, you’re really getting into a kind of hypnotic rant where you’re reinforcing to yourself that abundance is a pattern that is actually dominant in your life.

These kinds of practices really help you move from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.

So what will your evidence mantra be?

It can be anything from “That’s right, money’s always flowing to me,” or “Plenty more where that came from,” or “Money always magically shows up”. My students have many evidence mantras – and they all work, because they’re reinforcing what’s right in front of them, irrefutable proof, and it’s part of a pattern. 

TIP NUMBER THREE: Delay And Distract.

Clearing your money blocks is a process – and when you delay and distract it causes a pattern interrupt. 

It’s a way of starting to break down that old neural pathway by not going there just yet, and putting a little bit of a chink in that record.

So instead of directly going into an old pattern of thought, of action or activity, you catch yourself and notice that you’re about to do it. You just say “in a minute”. You basically delay, you say “not yet – in a minute”. And then you distract yourself for two minutes or more by doing something totally different. And this taps into the way your mind naturally works. It starts to break down those old neural pathways and really weaken that old pattern.

Have you noticed that none of these tips are about working directly on your money blocks?

That’s because if you go there, your tendency will be to reinforce them. And next thing, you will have inadvertently hypnotized yourself into believing that you have a really big problem that’s hard to overcome.

So going there and dealing with the money blocks themselves – you’re better off doing with the guidance of a professional.

But, in the meantime, a simple, easy and powerful way to really start making some progress and break down old patterns is to use those principles of crowding them out, of starting to atrophy the old pathways by using delay and distract, and reinforcing new patterns by giving them your focus, your energy, and amplifying them.

The reason your money mindset is such a big deal is ultimately it creates all these unconscious habits – it determines what you actually do with your money, what your money habits are.

Are you somebody who’s in the habit of always managing to save a little bit?

Or are you somebody who’s in the habit of always spending all their money, no matter how much comes in?

Or maybe you’re somebody who’s in the habit of always overextending themselves just a little bit (or a lot).

This is your Money Habit Archetype. It is your predominant habit pattern around money and it’s driven by an unconscious program.

So to help you discover what your money habit archetype is, and then to dive deeper and discover what’s driving your relationship with money and what that unconscious program actually is, I’ve created this really simple, handy quiz.

Find out what your money habit archetype is, then make sure you provide me with your email address because I will send you some really powerful questions specific to your money habit archetype that help you dive deeper and find out what those limiting beliefs are and the patterns that are driving it at the unconscious level.

The link is in today’s freebie section below, so go take that next & discover your Money Habit Archetype.

It’s time to embrace your unlimited potential, and it starts by taking the next step – discovering what those unconscious patterns are that are driving you.

And now you know exactly how to do that. 

See you next time, gorgeous!

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Rich Thinking vs Poor Thinking – and a hack for making the switch!

Rich Thinking vs Poor Thinking – and a hack for making the switch!

Let’s talk about rich thinking versus poor thinking.

This is really important because the difference between rich and poor really starts in the way that you think. 

So today I’m going to give you some examples of poor thinking, including some you may not even be aware of. And I’m also going to share with you a really simple tip to help you get out of any ‘poor people’ habits of thinking – so that you can start making the change and make ‘rich thinking’ your normal.

At my workshops and in my Magnetic Money program, I usually give people a long list of poverty, thoughts – examples of poor thinking. And I ask them to make a note of how many of those they believe, have ever believed, have ever thought or even have told others were true.

And you know what? Most people tick between 80 and 90% of the 50 different limiting negative poverty thoughts (examples of poor thinking) on that list! YIKES!!! 

When you consider that we think up to 80,000 thoughts a day, and most of them – like 95% of them – are totally unconscious, you start to realize what kind of poverty thoughts might be swarming around in there.

As a trained hypnotherapist, I’m really aware of just how much we constantly hypnotize ourselves and how much the world around us is constantly looking to hypnotize us. So our job is to choose selectively what kind of thoughts we allow in there in the first place – consciously – before they start becoming unconscious habits of thought.

It’s so critical that we catch this negative thinking – this poor thinking – early, because if you don’t, you really risk hypnotizing yourself into poverty.

Because thoughts that you keep thinking over and over again, they become unconscious patterns in your nervous system. They become beliefs. And then your beliefs all add up to make up your mindset. And all of that will build momentum. You end up getting what you expect.

You always get what you expect.

 

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That is the net outcome of Law of Attraction. All of these thoughts that are swirling around – that are on that same vibrational frequency – become unconscious belief systems. You don’t even realize you’re thinking them, but they’re constantly spinning and emitting a signal. And then the world will mirror that back to you.

 

So let’s have a look at some really common examples of poor thinking. And I want you to have a look and see how many of these you identify with, whether you’ve heard them or have said them, or believe them. Maybe in exactly the way I’m saying them – or some version thereof, or maybe it’s something your parents said – or was really similar to something your parents said – the message being the same that you heard growing up. We’re just going to cover 12. Let’s see how we go: 

 

  1. It takes money to make money. 
  2. Must be nice to be rich. 
  3. Rich people are bastards 
  4. Money doesn’t grow on trees.
    The rich get richer and the poor get poorer. 
  5. I’m not made of money. 
  6. Money is the root of all evil
  7. No pain, no gain. 
  8. The only way you’ll get anywhere is through hard work. 
  9. You can’t always get what you want. 
  10. Life’s not meant to be fair. 
  11. Life’s a bitch and then you die.

 

Let me know in the comments, which one of those examples of poor thinking really hits home for you?.

 

Now let’s look at a list of examples of rich thinking: 

  • The universe always has my back. 
  • There is an unlimited supply of abundance available to me. 
  • Opportunities are everywhere. 
  • I’m constantly attracting all the right people. 
  • I have so much value to offer. 
  • I love how people really appreciate my skills and talents. 
  • My money grows while I sleep. 
  • I’m a really good custodian of my money.

 

See how much more empowering these are?

The difference between rich thinking vs poor thinking is worlds apart.

The thing is, it’s not about cliched sounding beliefs because rich thinking versus poor thinking actually happens in all the little moments in life.

 

What happens when something breaks? 

What happens when you get an unexpected, big bill coming in? 

What happens when someone doesn’t pay you back or a client cancels? 

What are your default thoughts?

 

Just imagine for a moment that a friend asks you to catch up for dinner. But the thing is, they’re the kind of friend that always wants to go to the most expensive restaurants and order pretty much everything on the menu – including a really lovely, expensive bottle of wine – then expects you to go halves. 

 

What are your thoughts when that friend calls and suggests catching up? How do you feel about it? 

 

The thing is that rich thinking, it’s not about blowing the budget, but it’s about having the kinds of thoughts that demonstrate that you expect to live an abundant life. So we want to stop and interrupt that negative momentum from building.

 

Because if it builds too much momentum: 

Number one, you’re hypnotizing yourself even more into a poverty consciousness. 

And Number two, you’re going to start to emanate a stronger and more consistent signal of ‘there’s not enough – people take advantage – my money seems to just flow out – I’m not in control’ and all of that stuff.

 

And that signal will cause the universe to echo something similar back to you. It will bring you things that reflect that. So we want to put a stop to that negative thought process as early as possible, which means you need to pay attention. You need to be aware and then you need to be able to interrupt that pattern. And we’re going to do it using exactly that: A pattern interrupt.

Now, let me just quickly explain before we go through a demo. A pattern interrupt taps into the way your mind naturally works. 

 

You see willpower doesn’t work. 

 

If you say to yourself, “Oh no, I’m not going to have those negative thoughts. I’m not going to think about how that always makes me stress about money and think about that my phone bill is due tomorrow and I may have blown it all on a really expensive dinner, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.” 

 

If you tell yourself that you’re not going to think about something it’s like telling yourself not to think about a pink elephant, because if I tell you not to think about a pink elephant, because whatever you do, the pink elephant is really not going to help our situation right here right now. So please do not think about the pink elephant. Just take that pink elephant right out of your mind. Thank you very much….

 

All you’re thinking about now is the pink elephant, right? So willpower doesn’t work. It works for a little while, but then it’s a ticking time bomb because what it does is it creates all this buildup and resistance where unconsciously you’re saying, “but I want to, but I really want to, I really, really, really want to.”

 

If you’ve ever tried to use willpower to stop smoking, to stop overeating – any habit really – you’ll know that it works for a little while, but then it usually ends badly.

 

So willpower doesn’t work because of the way your mind works. 

 

But a pattern interrupt absolutely works because it takes advantage of the way your mind works. 

 

So you’ve got this conscious mind, your thinking mind, and that’s pretty clever and a useful little tool. And then you have the unconscious mind, which is this amazing, amazing, super computer that processes billions of bits of information per second. So it’s kind of like having a shovel and a supercomputer. 

 

Your supercomputer is used to waiting for your conscious mind to catch up. 

 

So instead of saying, “No, no, no, I’m not going to have all those negative thoughts because they have repercussions…etc” Instead of saying, “No”, you say “In a minute, just give me a minute because I’m a bit slow. I need some time” And your unconscious mind will not rebel itat that – it’s used to waiting.

 

So a pattern interrupt is exactly that. You say “In a minute“, and then you distract yourself for at least two minutes. Go and do something totally different – scroll Facebook or Instagram. That’ll usually keep you busy for 15 to 20 minutes, right? 

 

So the pattern interrupt is about delaying and distracting. And what that does is it weakens that neural pathway, that automatic worry cycle that wants to kick in straight away. It weakens that. So it doesn’t automatically kick in as hard next time. And you’ll need to do it a few times over and over. But the really great news is that after those two minutes, even if you go back and you do the worrying thing, you’ve still weakened that automatic pattern in your nervous system. 

 

That’s all you need to do to really start to weaken those old habits of poor thinking. How cool is that? 

 

It’s not really that difficult to break down these old habits and start creating the changes you want. 

What you need is some self-awareness, someone to hold up a mirror and then to have a handy little tool that you can easily use. That’s all it takes.

 

 So are you starting to realize that you really do have some consistent patterns of poor thinking going on? Well, it’s time to break that cycle! And the good news is that you’re absolutely ready. You wouldn’t be here reading this, doing the research, finding tools and starting to become aware if you weren’t ready for the next step. 

 

So now it’s just a matter of really building on that awareness, making sure you have some really useful tools and that you know how to use them. So anytime you need, anytime you spot yourself, you know, succumbing to that negative thinking, you can pull out those tools to put an end to that pattern and turn things around.

 

Now to help you with that, I’ve developed a little system that is super simple and easy for you to use over and over again. It’s what I personally use. It’s what I use with my VIP’s. And it’s what I’ve developed based on years and years of experience. With the Money Blockbuster System, you get to sit down anytime you catch yourself in a bit of a cycle of negative thinking. It helps you quickly identify what that limiting belief is that is causing it and clear it. 

It even comes with hypnosis and invitations to join regular live group coaching sessions with me. If you want to check that out, just follow the link below and grab yourself the Money Blockbuster System.

It’s time to embrace your unlimited potential and you’re absolutely ready to take that next step.

xx Miriam

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