Why you’re manifesting more problems

Why you’re manifesting more problems

Contrast is when things happen that you prefer not to happen – usually what we label a ‘problem’. 

Or if you want to reframe it slightly, a challenge. 

Or if you want to reframe it even more, contrast that gives you clarity about what you DO actually want.

Here’s the thing with contrast…

See, we’re raised in this world where we’re told that when stuff is unwanted, we have to fight it really hard.

But what we actually do by doing that is… it’s like quicksand – the harder you fight it, the more it sucks you in!

It sucks you under and you cannot get away from it. What then actually happens is you start spinning on the spot.

You get stuck in the contrast. 

It’s all you can see and so you just keep activating more and more of the same.

It takes a little bit of retraining, so here’s how:

 

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Be kind to yourself. Start becoming aware that when something happens, you have a choice on how you want to react.

Yes, some things will happen that will really upset you.

Some things will upset you just a little bit, and you can choose to allow yourself to get sucked into it and go deeper into the quicksand. 

Or, you can choose to go, “I don’t like that at all.” Then stop – pause. Realise it is this contrast thing, and this is an opportunity for you to get clarity on what it is you do actually want.

From there you have another choice:

Do you want to complain that you don’t have what you really want and instead you got this thing just now AGAIN that you don’t want, or do you go, “Thank you for giving me clarity that THIS is really what I want.” And let that go. Let it go down into the quicksand without you, and you go after THIS.

Start focusing on THIS. Start looking at ways you can make THIS happen. 

Start looking for evidence on how things like that, or little signs and glimpses of it are ALREADY appearing in your experience.

You’ll actually activate more and more of this, and you’ll start moving in that direction.

So the message from this Effectology  tip is simple: 

Use the contrast as the bouncing platform to take you in the direction of where you do actually want to go. Do not allow yourself to get sucked in by it and dragged under. Because you’ll end up stuck there.

That’s a really powerful tip.

Try it on little things. Don’t go for the biggest, most important problem in your life right now. Just try it on something little. Somebody not letting you in traffic. Or something that, really, is not a big deal and just use it.

Use it to train yourself to stop, step away from it and think, “This just gave me clarity on what I do want… what I do appreciate. And look how much evidence of that there is in my life.”

And you’ll start noticing some really major shifts and it doesn’t take very long.

Off you go.

Play with that and please come back and leave me some comments to let me know how it goes.

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3 Hot Tips for Rewiring Your Brain With A New Money Story

3 Hot Tips for Rewiring Your Brain With A New Money Story

We all know that the unconscious mind is where all the hot action is, right?

Because everything that’s going on for you at the conscious level – 98% of that in fact – is completely driven by the unconscious mind.

The unconscious mind is brilliant. It takes over. It takes care of things for you.

It keeps your heart beating, your lungs inflating. It makes sure you don’t think about how to tie your shoelaces or get dressed in the morning, or how to walk for that matter. Remember trying to learn that? Yeah… me neither.

These things can be difficult in the beginning but once we master them, we become unconsciously competent. 

We just do them without even thinking about it.

 

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So they get wired deep into our unconscious mind and they just kind of happen. They’re just on autopilot, which is fantastic for a huge number of things in life. Because I don’t know about you, but I’m a bit too busy to think about keeping my heart beating, and my lungs inflating.

However, what also happens is that sometimes we take on a story, a belief system, and we wire that into our unconscious mind.

Then everything we create, the way we unconsciously behave, the way we see the world and what we expect to get out of the world matches that unconscious belief. So we keep perpetuating this reality over and over and over again, and even though we may not like it, we kind of feel like we’re stuck with it… until we do something about it.

Doing something about it is all about starting to write and starting to live a new story.

When it comes to attracting money and abundance, growing your business, and all that good stuff, you’ve got an underlying old story that says, “This is how things roll.”

As you start to want to create a new story to replace it, you need to start talking about that story. You need to start acting in alignment with that story.

Now, the problem is that a lot of people go too fast, too hard.

They kind of stuff it up because what they inadvertently do is they wire in even more deeply the fact that there is a problem. By trying to fight it too quickly and go too hard too fast they’re actually being counter productive.

So that’s actually the first of the three tips I want to give you for writing a new money story:

Number one, don’t go too hard, too fast.

Go easy and realize that little incremental shifts that actually stick, are going to get you a whole lot further than you trying to make some ridiculous jump overnight that even when you’re saying it and thinking it, there’s a voice in the back of your mind that says, “What a load of bullshit.”

You want to NOT activate that voice that says, “This is bullshit.” That’s basically the aim of the game.

So go slowly and gently enough that you’re not activating that voice. Listen for it. If that voice pops up, back up a little bit and go a little gentler. You can do that over and over and over again and you are absolutely making progress.

The second tip I want to give you is that as you start talking about the way you do want things to be now, the way things are starting to become, you do exactly what I just did and you use “transitional language.”

“Starting to.”

“Becoming.”

“In the process of.”

And when you talk about the old pattern, put it in the past with your language.

Talk about what you used to do, and “In the past…”, and, “Back then this was an issue… but now I’m starting to see things differently. Now I’m starting to feel empowered about my money. Now I’m starting to notice that there’s opportunities everywhere. Now I’m starting to realize that the less I focus on and stress about money, the more money seems to flow, in fact I’m starting to think maybe that’s the secret to the whole thing, that I just focus on all the good stuff in my life, stop obsessing about money, and more money flows, because it happened again last week.

That little bit I added at the end there “because it happened again last week,” that’s the third tip I want to give you.

The third tip is to use what I call a “Universal Truth.”

Put in statements that you know to be true, and that you cannot argue with. Ones that voice that likes to yell out, “Bullshit,” from the back row cannot argue with.

I like to have a universal truth and yes, you can do it the way I just kind of gave you the example, where you state an actual thing that happened.

But a Universal Truth – even better – is like a mantra that you say right there and then as it’s happening. It’s you reinforcing that,”Yes, this is now starting to happen. This is now becoming my new reality. Yes, this is possible and these moments do happen. Look at that, I wasn’t even thinking about my business and people booked in and so it is true that I don’t have to be obsessing about it 24/7 to make money, in fact, sometimes, I’m doing nothing to do with my business and the money just flows.”

You want to reinforce it when it’s actually happening. Jump on that opportunity, pounce on it –  because this is your chance to really hammer it home, to really wire that into your unconscious mind.

So have a universal truth statement that you’ve got ready – because I’m pretty used to doing this and it kind of just flows – but in the beginning particularly, you want to have that universal truth statement ready.

It may sound something like, “But of course, there’s always plenty of money coming,” or, “But of course, everything always works itself out.” You want a statement that you cannot argue with, and that is a universal truth that you use in the moment that applies across the board.

Things like, “That’s right, the universe always has the bigger picture in mind,” and, “That’s right, the universe is always looking out for me,” and, “That’s right, everything’s always working out,” and, “That’s right, money always shows up,” or, “That’s right, the bills do always get paid.”

So you have that universal truth, you have that statement ready, and you throw it in there. And you want that to be very general, a very nice general statement. Something, like I said, that the voice from the back row has nothing to talk about.

So my favourite universal statement is, “Everything is always working out for me. It all works out.”

Mike Dooley mentioned one, I don’t know if it’s actually his that he uses regularly, but he says one and it was, “It’s always working”.Even though I can’t always see it, it’s always working.”

What that does, is you’re using it right there in that moment and it helps you really wire in that this is the new reality.

So remember that, number one, don’t go too hard too fast.

Number two, use transitional language.

And number three, use those statements of universal truth to keep reinforcing right then and there that everything is always working out for you because, baby, it totally is.

Now, as far as rewriting your money story goes, the number one place to start is the very tip of the iceberg. When you start at the tip of the iceberg, you make sure you don’t miss anything.

The tip of the iceberg is called your Money Habit Archetype. It is that big picture pattern of how money shows up for you in your life, over and over and over again. It encompasses all the little different situations. Once you become really aware of that and know how to use that, then you can use that information to rewrite that old money story, so the pattern that’s surfacing can shift.

So it starts with knowing your Money Habit Archetype and if you haven’t done it for a while – or if you’ve never done it – then make sure you jump on my Money Habit Archetype quiz, to which you will find the link in the description.

So hop to it, get started now!

Let’s transform that money story of yours, remember the three hot tips I gave you, and until I see you next, make sure you keep embracing your unlimited potential.

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What’s Your Money Habit Archetype?

What’s Your Money Habit Archetype?

Do you know what your Money Habit Archetype is?

Okay, so there are, three broad categories of “habit archetypes” that people fall into when it comes to money.

The thing with money is that we have these habit patterns and they don’t really change that much unless we do something major to shift them.

That’s because a habit is an unconscious pattern in the nervous system, which means that you’ll repeat it over and over and over again without giving it any conscious thought.

You’re unconscious to it.

It just happens automatically on autopilot and meanwhile you’re washing the dishes or on Facebook or whatever you’re doing, and you don’t realize what is going on.

We operate unconsciously about 98% of the time, so it’s not just you, it’s how the human mind works.

When it comes to money, like I said, there are three broad categories of Money Habit Archetype.

 

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Now, they are:

Number one: The Accumulator.

The Accumulator is somebody who always seems to manage to put some money away. No matter what’s going on, they’ve always got a bit leftover and they tuck it aside. So that is the Accumulator.

Number two: The Spender.

This is the person who always kind of breaks even. Money comes in, money goes out. Really, they just spend everything that comes in, everything they earn, and every dollar has an important… or not so important job to do and there’s nothing left.

And the third: The Overextender.

The Overextender is the one that always seems to have not quite enough and is constantly going backwards. They’re constantly accumulating debt, because they spend more than they earn.

Now the really interesting thing about this is that it actually makes no difference as to how much money you make to what habit archetype you are.

The habit archetype has to do with the patterns that are running deep in your subconscious basement. They’re running the show, so the numbers are irrelevant.

You can be an Overextender who always goes into a bit of extra debt, earning $20,000 a year. You can be an Overextender, then as life progresses you’re making $60,000 a year, but still it’s not quite enough because you want that lovely car and you want to live in a nicer place than you can really afford. And then say you do build a business that becomes successful and you’re turning over a million or more, and you decide that you really do want the Ferrari, you want the Porsche as well, and you want to have those amazing holidays in the Maldives while they’re still above water level.

So, no matter how much you’re earning you’re still always just stretching yourself beyond your means, so it’s got nothing to do with how much money you make. That means that if you want to change that pattern, that end result, it’s not just about looking at how can I bring in more money, it’s actually about looking at, “Hm, this pattern… what’s going on with that and what’s that all about?”

So, an easy way to figure out which of those three you fall into, is to look back to your childhood. Think about what you were like as a kid with pocket money or with your first job and you’ll find that it’s actually still the same.

The interesting thing is that the people who are Accumulators, they always feel like, “Yeah I’m saving money but it’s just not enough, there was more to be saved so maybe I’m not an Accumulator, maybe I’m a Spender”. So if that’s how your brain is firing right now, just know that if you’re somebody who says, “Ugh, I only have $10,000 in the bank and it’s just not enough,” you’re an Accumulator.

So what I wanted to let you know is that, you need to figure out what you are and the easiest way to do is to go back to early childhood, because most likely it’s been that recurring pattern ever since.

Then figure out where that came from.
Why do I feel like it’s just never enough?

Most of us just think that if we just became an Accumulator everything would be great, but the interesting thing is, I know lots of Accumulators who are really unhappy about their financial situation, because the undercurrent is that, “It’s not enough, and I’m not safe. No matter how much is in the bank, I’m not safe.”

Or maybe you’re a Spender and you do spend every dollar that comes in, but you’re doing that from the point of view of, “I trust that all my needs are always being met. I trust that I’m able to generate any amount of money I need, and I trust that my bills are always paid, and I trust that I always find the opportunities to help me create more money, so spending isn’t a big deal, because there’s always more coming in.”

If you’re a Spender, and you’re always breaking even, and that is your mindset… that’s awesome! That’s actually fabulous, because the bottom line is that how much money is in the bank is irrelevant, it’s how you FEEL about it that is relevant.

So, if you don’t feel good about your financial situation and your Money Habit Archetype – the way that you operate around money right now – then you do need to go back and just ask the questions, “Where did I learn that? Where did I learn that that’s important or that’s the way things work?” Start to unravel some of those things.

Start to ask yourself those sorts of questions.

Questions are powerful, and on that note before I let you go, I encourage you to do my quiz. I’ve got this great quiz which actually lets you know what the next step is to creating a life of abundance & joy.

We don’t want to be rich and feel like crap and feel like it’s not enough. We want all of it.

So if you feel like that’s not quite humming for you please take my quiz, the link is in the description and it’ll help you work out what your next step from here is, so that you can create that abundant life for yourself.

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How to manifest with visualisation

How to manifest with visualisation

Okay, so you’ve been told that you should visualise.

You’ve been told that you should create a vision board and then sit with your eyes shut for 4-5 minutes a day and daydream about all the things you’d like in your life.

And like most people, you probably think that’s because the things that you visualise – the things that you put on your vision board – they’re the things that you’ll then, somehow, manage to drag into your experience.

But that’s actually not what it does.

 

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Yes, it does help reprogram your unconscious mind.

Yes, it does help program your reticular activating system so that you’re aware of things that match what you desire when they come into your experience. So that as you’re going through life, you’re going, “Oh, good idea!”

You’ll see things that you didn’t see before.

Because you’ve programmed your unconscious to say, “It’s now important to me.”

And so yes, it does all of that and that’s powerful.

But what it also helps you do is it helps you raise your vibration.

And really, that is the one key thing that you’ve got to get good at consistently. Not just every now and then when you remember or when things work out the way you want them to. But to consistently keep yourself in that good-feeling place.

Because that is the language of the Universe.

That is how all the things that match can come into your experience.

And that is how you keep yourself open to the possibilities… to all the things that are required in order for you to have those things.

So it’s not a shopping list. It’s not about, “I want this car thing. I want this holiday thing. I want to check-in to that resort.”

It’s not about that at all.’

In fact, if that’s what you do, you’re being counter-productive.

It’s about ‘these sorts of things’ because I like the way they feel.

It’s really just pitching some ideas to the Universe and going, “You know, this sort of thing would be really cool. Or something that feels that way.”

It’s about giving you an opportunity to get excited about all the things that are possible which, as I said, raises your vibration.

And as you do that more frequently, you get used to it. You get used to living in a better-feeling place. You get used to feeling good more of the time.

I know…. We do. We have to train ourselves. We all have this set point of how we tend to feel most of the time.

Some people they are just quite low.

But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck there. You can do things that raise your set point. And then raise it again and again.

And the more you do, the more you open up to the possibilities.

So, visualisation is just about getting excited, raising your vibe, and pitching you ideas to the Universe.

If you like all of that, I’ve got a nice little freebie for you.

It’s access to my library of hypnotic meditations.

If you click the link in the description, you’ll get access to the lot and you can program your unconscious mind and the Universe to bring you what you want.

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3 tips to help you build a savings buffer when you’re a Spender

3 tips to help you build a savings buffer when you’re a Spender

If you’re a Spender Money Habit Archetype, what that means is that all the money that tends to come into your life, quickly flows out again. 

You always end up back at square one. 

It’s always the feeling of living hand-to-mouth and it really has very little to do with the level of income that you have – it’s more to do with the PATTERN being that the money that comes in, all disappears again – it gets swallowed up by bills, unexpected expenses, all sorts of things.

Sometimes you’re not even quite sure exactly where it went except it seems to be gone!

So, when that’s happening it can be really hard for you to build up a savings buffer. That’s frustrating, and sometimes, scary.

The reason that it’s not happening, is because you building up and accumulating savings is not a match to the Spender Money Habit Archetype, and that pattern is being informed, fueled, and created by an underlying STORY, an underlying belief system that says, “Money can’t stick around here, it’s all got to go!” 

So what can you do about it so that you CAN start building up a savings buffer?

I’m going to give you three tips:

 

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Number one: First point of call is to figure out what that underlying story is and start to shift it.

I want you to think about this Money Habit Archetype pattern that’s showing up in your physical 3D reality as a clue, as the tip of an iceberg. 

It helps you figure out where this iceberg is, and once you’ve located it, you can work your way down into the deeper levels of your mind and into your unconscious and figure out what that story is underneath that’s creating this effect at the reality, 3D, visible, tangible level. 

What do you hold to be true at the unconscious level.. whether it’s good or true or not.. what is your unconscious story that you’ve taken on that is playing out in this way?

One of the quickest and easiest ways to do that, like I said, is by uncovering the Money Habit Archetype, putting your finger on it, and then working your way down. 

I have a quiz to help you do exactly that, the link to that is in the description. 

So, jump on that, do the quiz, confirm you are a Spender Money Habit Archetype and then I will send you a sequence of emails to help you uncover that story at the unconscious level so that you can untangle, disconnect it, and transform it to a much more helpful and empowering story. That is step number one.

Now, the second step you want to do is, you’ve got this ingrained long-standing habit, and what you want to do is you want to outsource as much of that as possible to a SYSTEM that will take it away from the spender in you and do the right thing with your money.

So something as simple as setting up an automated transfer of savings every single week – the more frequently the better – even if you do a dollar a day to begin with that’s fine, you won’t miss it. 

It just becomes this thing that fades into the background, but the trick is, send it to another bank where you can’t see the money, where you kind of forget all about it. Then, you only look at it every 6 months, or maybe you set a calendar reminder that you can check up on it quarterly.

Outsourcing the habit of accumulating savings to a system, means that it’s not up to you to constantly look at all this money, juggle what’s in your hands, and then have to put some aside. 

That is not in your nature, and that is not what you’ve been conditioned to do. 

So OUTSOURCE that and make it as remote and removed from you as possible. Give the money to your mum if you must, whatever it takes!

The third tip that I want to give you, is you need to set up some rules and make it really hard for you to get at that money.

Rules like: there is no ATM card for that account and there is no easy internet access to access that account.

You want to take away the temptation of dipping into that money. 

You can do things like put a second signatory on the account, so someone else needs to sign for you to even get to that money, or even put it in someone else’s name… but if it’s going to be a significant amount of savings then be careful because if you want to then maybe use that as a deposit to buy a home, you could have trouble proving that’s your own savings, so just keep that in mind. 

Or make it even easier, just give someone else the password!

Get somebody else to have your internet password and change it – somebody you trust obviously – and then that means that if you need to look at that money or want to access that money, you’re going to need to give them a really good reason which you will set out for them beforehand.

For example, “If I come to you and this and this and this is what’s happening, then you give me the password so I can access the money. If I don’t give you a good enough reason, or you don’t quite believe my reason, then you don’t give me the password.” 

So you have to have a really good relationship with this person, but I know you have someone like this in your life. What you can do is ask them to just kind of check in with you, and give you those status updates and say, “Yep, it’s up to this amount,” so you don’t even have to go check how much money is in there.

So set up the rules and make it hard for you to get to it. 

As much out of sight out of mind as possible. Outsource the actual habit to the system and then remove yourself as much as possible so you can’t give in to temptation.

Before you know it, that will become a new habit and it’s just what’s going on. You won’t even think about it anymore.

So, shifting the habit pattern, this practical stuff I’m talking about, what it’s going to do for you is that, to your mind, to your unconscious mind, that’s actually a change to the old story. 

It’s actually proof that the old story may not be true, which helps you shift it. 

If at the same time you’re doing what I suggested, do the quiz and follow the guidelines I give you from there on to start to untangle and change that old story, then you’re coming at it from both angles.

Between the two, that is how you fast-track and how you start to really shift that pattern so that you can start building up that savings buffer even though your Money Habit Archetype is that of a Spender.

It does not need to mean you can’t do that for yourself.

So, make sure you start with the quiz & have an amazingly, wonderfully, transformative time with this. 

I’d love to hear your stories and how you’re going! Maybe bookmark this post and put it in your calendar for 12 months time and then come back and tell me how much money you’ve accumulated and let’s celebrate!

Until then, make sure you keep on embracing your beautiful and unlimited potential.

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